I Am Peaceful

The Lord is at hand;  

do not be anxious about anything, 

but in everything

 by prayer and supplication

 with thanksgiving

 let your requests be made known to God.  

And the peace of God, 

which surpasses all understanding, 

will guard your hearts

 and your minds in Christ Jesus. 

Philippians 4:5-7

Good morning, Girlfriends!

How are you today? 

"I am peaceful; thank you for asking."

I am interested to know how many of you would respond to that question this way? If I had to guess, I'd say, oh, about....ZERO. In today's world, peace does not seem to be the reigning state of mind or heart. Instead, we are more likely to be anxious, stressed out, busy, occupied, sad, concerned, depressed, or sick. Once in a while, that questions catches us on a good day--probably a Saturday--and we might respond with a more positive tone, proclaiming temporary happiness and contentment. Check back a day or two later, though, and most likely we will have reverted back to the former answers. Ladies, I admit, I have never heard anyone, including myself, admit to a peace-filled state of existence. Never. Not once.

Until today. 

Surprise! The words came straight out of ME. Yes, Girlfriends, I am peaceful. Thank you for asking. 

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid. John 14:7 ESV

Not as the world gives...

Ladies, I have every earthly reason to be in a state of complete turmoil and emotional upheaval right now: 

1. I am married. I am a mother. I am a daughter. 2. My husband started a new job five states away this week. I miss him. 3. We are moving. I am still here, trying to sell our house in an over-saturated, deflated market. We are going to lose thousands of dollars. 4. My teenage son does not want to move. I am the mom he loves, but I am the enemy moving him. Love/hate relationships. I feel his pain. 5. Another daughter left home to college last month. I miss my babies, aka my lovely daughters. I am trying to be a good, long-distance parent, nurturing tender wings as they encounter the harsh winds of real life. 6. My oldest daughter is in extreme physical pain from a life-altering, medical error. I hurt because she is hurting. I can't fix it. I am pleading with God to heal her. She wants answers, including Why? I can't answer. I try to lead her to the One who can. 7. This same daughter's husband started a new job this week. She is moving to the opposite coast from where I am moving. 8. I am going to miss my mom. And sister. And mom-in-law. And girlfriends. I wish I had been a better daughter. I want to take them with me. 

"I am peaceful; thank you for asking."

Girlfriends, in the midst of life's pandemonium, this tumultuous turmoil, I have peace. Despite all these circumstances swirling around me, surpassing all understanding, the peace of Christ is guarding my heart and mind. 

Peace did not find me, however. I had to go after it. Go after Him. Seek Him. Pursue Peace. God, in His grace and mercy, offered me His peace but the work was mine to do. Do not get me wrong. I did not earn it. Peace was freely given to me. But I had to choose to claim it. I could be anxious and worried, stressed and depressed, or I could follow His Word:

do not be anxious about anything, 

but in everything

 by prayer and supplication

 with thanksgiving

 let your requests be made known to God. Phil 4:5-6

My peace comes from trusting God. I give Him thanks and praise, even in the difficult times. I believe He is who and what He says He is. As proof, which we humans seem to demand, I stand on His examples of past faithfulness. To me. To my family. To others I know. To His beloved people written about in His Word. I submit my life to Him: the good, the bad, the ugly, the in-between. I chose to offer every issue up in prayer and then trust in His will and His plan, which is far greater than I will ever understand. 

For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
    neither are your ways my ways,”
declares the Lord.“As the heavens are higher than the earth,
    so are my ways higher than your ways
    and my thoughts than your thoughts."

Isaiah 55:8-9

Ladies, peace is yours. Take hold of God's will for you. I pray today that you will seek the peace that passes all understanding. Do not sit idly by, waiting for it to come upon you. Do the work. Make the choice. I pray you will choose Jesus. Give thanks. Give praise. Lift up your face. Lift up your life daily. Peace is lasting but your efforts cannot be fleeting: prayer today, gone tomorrow. Be consistent and persistent in your pursuit. And be patient. Wait for the LORD; be strong and take heart and wait for the LORD. Psalm 27:14

So, I ask you Girlfriends, how are you today?

Peace be with you.

Appraised Value

Consider the ravens: 
They do not sow or reap, they have no storeroom or barn; 
yet God feeds them.
 And how much more valuable you are than birds! 
Luke 12:24

 “Consider how the wild flowers grow. 
They do not labor or spin. 
Yet I tell you, not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these.  
If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, 
which is here today, and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, 
how much more will he clothe you—you of little faith!
 Luke 12:27-28

 “Do not be afraid, little flock, 
for your Father has been pleased to give you the kingdom. 
Luke 12:32

“For God so loved the world 
that he gave his one and only Son 
 that whoever believes in him
 shall not perish but have eternal life. 
John 3:16   

Hello Girlfriends!
I hope you had a "labor free" Labor Day weekend. Oh, wait, there is no such thing for a woman, right? Our work is never done. By the time we clean the house top to bottom, we have to go up to the top and start all over again!


Personally, I have had my fill of cleaning these past few months. In order to put our home on the real estate market, we had to do some serious purging, organizing, scouring, and polishing. Worse yet, we have to keep the place immaculate on the remote chance a potential buyer wants to pop in at thirty minutes' notice. The good Lord knows we would not want anyone to lower their offer because our beds are unmade, the sock drawer is hanging open, or the kitchen counter is covered in crumbs.

Speaking of offers, a part of the moving process involves appraisals and inspections before we're given a buy-out offer. Hoping to add value to the appraisal price, we spent countless hours working on our house, making repairs, adding upgrades, mending flaws, and replacing the broken and worn pieces. At the mercy of relocation appraisers for the sale price of our home, we knew we had to make everything perfect in order to earn the highest amount possible. I was devastated when the first appraiser came back $100,000 less than we had purchased our home. Ladies, I literally sat down and cried for thirty minutes straight before I called my husband and continued the meltdown over the phone! How could this man come to this conclusion, especially after all the work we had put into the house? Was our investment seriously worth so little? Hadn't we done enough to earn a better price?

The next seven days were agonizing as we awaited the second appraisers report; however, in the midst of those nervous moments, this blog was born. I turned to God in prayer, asking for the second appraiser to come to the conclusion that our home was worth more. Worth more. Worth more....more valuable....valuable appraisal....these words started ringing in my head. I was focused on all the effort we had given to "earn it."

Suddenly, my thoughts shifted to my own life and relationships. Was I tying my value to my work, to my house, to the appraisals others gave of me? God quickly answered: "YOU don't have to earn my love. YOU are worth more. YOU are of value to Me just as you are." No upgrades. No replacements. No attempts at mending will ever increase the price God is willing to pay--because He already paid it. He paid it in the blood of His only Son, and He paid the premium--the highest--the largest sum possible. Willingly, He paid it all... for me....for you.....for us.

Girlfriends, God says you don't need to labor to increase your worth, to elevate your value or position. You do not need the appraisals or inspections of men to know that you are solid gold--priceless--in the eyes of your Savior. Your value is in His love for you, and God knows you are worth it all--worth the incarnation of  Himself, the sending of Christ (God in the flesh) to this earth to give us a living example. You are worth dying a horrible death on the cross. You are worth rising, conquering death, and claiming victory over the evil one, who wants you to think you have to earn it.

Ladies, that is true value, that we are someone worth God dying for. We don't have to struggle to add value to ourselves-- to lose weight, educate, impersonate, accomodate, compensate, accumulate, deviate--NO. None of these things. All we have to do is just be in love with the Lord and willing to follow Him, accepting His atoning work on the cross and living out our faith in honor of His sacrifice. Not to earn value--but to show gratitude for it. You are HIS treasure.

My dear friends, if today you are wondering, "Am I worth it?" or worse yet, thinking "I am not worth anything," STOP wondering and START reading the key verses above. You are more valuable than the birds in the sky which God feeds and cares for daily, year after year. Will He not care for you? Will He not provide for you? Does He not love you infinitely more? YES, He does. You are more beautiful to God than the wildflowers which He dresses in splendid color, texture, and design. In His eyes you are perfect, lovely, and radiant. Nothing is more valuable than that for which you would give your life. So, I will say it again, God loves you so much that He decided to give you His kingdom--and so He died for you. That, ladies, is an appraisal you can take to the bank and cash in on your fortune!

My prayer for each one of you is that today you will focus upon your worth in the opinion of the Most High and no one else. Live on His appraisal of you. Act on your value as a child of God. Believe in His word. Know you are loved!

Seek Ye First

But seek first the kingdom of God 

and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.  

Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow,

 for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. 

Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.

Matthew 6:33-34 ESV

Helloooooooooo, Girlfriends!

Can you hear me across the miles and the expanse of time that has separated us this summer? I certainly hope so because I am longing to connect with you. Having been bogged down with a plethora of moving details, I longed to write but either found no time, energy, or, sadly, inspiration to put into words all that has transpired since early July. My desire to sit at the computer and convey my thoughts battled with a gnawing inside that told me only negativism would pour forth. I convinced myself that the words I would write in the midst of my confusion, stress, and sometimes sadness would dishonor God. So, silence and separation ensued.

Fortunately, I heard a Word from God last weekend that moved me out of my complacency. And, Girlfriends, would you believe those words came through a man? Gasp! I know. A man. But a good man, I will have you know, and his name is Pastor Mark Andreson from Calvary Church in Lemont.

Pastor Mark and his wife/son are moving to Indonesia to work in Christian ministry, bringing light to a dark place in the world. This fact was only recently revealed to our congregation, and last Sunday was Pastor Mark's farewell sermon. As I sat listening to his discourse, I marveled at God's timing and universalism, knowing that His Word, which is so precious to Mark and Kim at this time in their transition, was also penetrating the hearts of others in the audience, especially mine.

Like an arrow, one point in particular shot straight into my soul, and its source is today's key verse. Let me give it to you also from the Good News Bible translation:

Instead, be concerned above everything else with the Kingdom of God and with what he requires of you, and he will provide you with all these other things. So do not worry about tomorrow; it will have enough worries of its own. There is no need to add to the troubles each day brings.

Is anyone else feeling like God just sat you down in a chair, took your chin in His hand and lifted your face, saying, "Look at me and listen up?" Well, that is exactly what I pictured Him doing to me as I absorbed Pastor Mark's message.

God's voice boomed: "Seek Me first and foremost: in the morning when you rise; in the day as you perform; and in the evening before you close your eyes to rest. I am the Alpha and the Omega; let your life reflect Me."

My heart heard God's reprimands loudly and clearly. I had put my worldly needs first, allowing worry and frustration to rule each day, to the point that I could not do the good works He has prepared for me in advance. (Ephesians 2:10) I could not write to you, my dear Girlfriends, and bring God's Word alive through His power from my fingers on a laptop because my anxious brain committed these hands to hours of internet searches for real estate issues, schools, housing, employment, medical insurance, and a multitude of other items that accompany a relocation. I missed opportunity after opportunity all around me to connect hearts and minds with God's Word because my own heart and mind were so far removed from Him. In essence, even though God has always proven His faithfulness to me, I trusted my ability to coordinate this move more than I trusted His power to put into place everything He already begun when He selected my husband for this new job.

"Seek ye first the kingdom of God..." Do not get me wrong. I am not saying that God did not have tasks for me to complete to make this move, or any of the summer's events, happen. To the contrary, I realize that God assigns us work--I read the Bible and see many examples of God's people laboring hard. But what Pastor Mark so eloquently pointed out is that when we keep our mind on God, His Kingdom, and His righteousness before, during, and after our work, all the things we need are added unto us--and added without the stress and anxiety created by worry. Additionally, we find that we have time along the way to serve the people He places in our paths here and now. In other words, we do not miss today's opportunities because our brain is consumed with thoughts of tomorrow, or next week, or next month. He will give us plenty of people to bless then as well!

So, ladies, I have to give credit for my return to blogging to God first, and then to Pastor Mark for sharing with us God's message to him. I am so excited to write again and be a part of your day, sharing God's love and mine with you. I pray you will hear what the Lord has to speak into your life from today's verses and that you will always seek Him first. Enjoy your Labor Day weekend, remembering that our labor is indeed blessed by Him when we focus on His kingdom and His righteousness, not our own glory, fame and fortune.

Finally, I want to pray God's mighty blessing upon the Andreson family, their relocation process, and the work they will do in Indonesia. I am happy to share Pastor Mark's other verses from last Sunday's sermon in hope that you too will find power and rest in Him. Blessings to all!

Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings. And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. To him be the power for ever and ever. Amen.1 Peter 5:6-11

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.  Philippians 4:6-7

Trusting the Lord

 

Trust in the Lord with all your heart
    and lean not on your own understanding; 

 in all your ways submit to him,
    and he will make your paths straight.

Proverbs 3:5-6

Hello My Girlfriends!

I apologize for the huge time gaps between blogs this past month. Not because of writer's block, or lack of interest in writing to you, but instead my life has taken an interesting twist that has thwarted my efforts to write daily. In the midst of mourning the upcoming loss of day to day contact with my youngest daughter (remember she is heading to college in just two weeks), my husband was offered a job promotion that requires a move even farther away from all of my girls.

So, ladies, I know you have heard Proverbs 3:5-6 quoted many, many times, but I am here to tell you that God gave us this piece of wisdom for a good reason. In the difficult and trying times, trusting in the Lord and believing His ways definitely lessens the pain and angst. I am submitting my life to Him, trusting that He will bring all things together for our good and His glory, just as He has done the past twelve moves in our married life!

Funny thing about trust, you must stick to your convictions and faith in all situations, including superstitious ones! Here I am, moving for the thirteenth time, listing my house on Friday the 13th, and finding that my mind wants to freak out over the numbers. Man-made silliness, I know, but I had to take my thoughts captive to overcome the uneasiness.

So, as I work feverishly this week to prepare my home for showings and appraisals, I am thinking of you and compiling blog topics in my mind.  Be ready for the barrage in August!!

I also want to thank God for Girlfriends who step to help in when life throws these curve balls. I am grateful for the helping hands and praying hearts that serve our family in love and friendship. Praise to God that this earth, wherever we reside on it, is only our temporary home. By God's grace, we look forward to eternity in one another's presence, with tea, snacks, flowers, candles, conversation, and laughter abounding.

I am so blessed!

Love to you all!

Lift Up Your Head

I lift up my eyes to the mountains—
    where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord,
    the Maker of heaven and earth.
Psalm 121:1-2 NIV
 

Girlfriends, welcome to hot, hot, hot July! Wherever you are in the world, I hope you are staying well hydrated in this heat. You are the bright and beautiful flowers in my garden of friendship. Today, I pray you will also receive some refreshing, spiritual watering deep in your souls. Let's dive in.

Key Verse

When these things begin to take place, stand up and lift up your heads, 

because your redemption is drawing near.

Luke 21:28 NIV

Looking Down

Ladies, I have spent a lot of time walking lately, trying to sort out in my mind, and spirit, the direction my life is going. One day while traversing the sidewalks and pondering my existence, I noticed that I am always looking down. (I have seen more cracks this month than a plumber's assistant.) Even when I exercise by climbing the limestone stairs at the toboggan run, my eyes are fixed on the rising or falling of the steps--which by the way are covered in dirt, bird poo, and creepy, crawling (or smashed) insects. I realized that the visual stimulation received during my soul searching walks is not enlivening nor enhancing my thought process whatsoever. In fact, the blandness of the concrete and the repetitiveness of the fissures are depressing reminders of the routine ruts into which we can fall as we march through our days. 

Recently, I decided that one of my twelve laps up and down the 125 stairs would be taken backwards. As I began my reverse ascent, I tried to look down, straining my neck to see the next stair behind me. I turned to the right, but my neck hurt. I twisted to the left. My neck still hurt, and now I was also dizzy. Finally, I looked up and straight ahead, allowing my foot to find the edge of the next step behind me by feel and faith. I continued to climb backwards in this manner, gazing out at the beautiful green forest in front of me the entire length of the rise. Suddenly, I arrived at the top of the flight, unaware of how many steps I had taken because my eyes were captivated by the beauty displayed before me. Yes, my legs were noodly and my breathing labored, as usual, but this loop passed quicker than the others I believe because my gaze was upward and the view was pleasant.

How many of us spend the majority of our lives looking down? Take a walk in any crowded place and try to catch someone's eye to offer them a smile or a wink. Chances are most people are gazing downward--at the ground, scanning for possible impediments which might cause them to trip and fall; at their phones, searching for meaningful relationships in a text message or on facebook; at their ipods, hoping to find solace, or inspiration to keep moving forward, in the next artist's song.

We all do it. We travel this world looking down, focusing on our earthly life with earthly problems, scarred by sin and disobedience, fearful of the uneven pavement, of the bumps in the road, of the rocks in the path upon which we may stub our toes, or trip and take a tumble. But what if we could walk by faith, lifting our eyes upward, focusing on the things of God, of the heavenly and perfect realm, of the promise we have been made? How would life change? How many eyes would we catch, smiles would we share, knowing glances would we exchange? The beauty of this life is found by beholding the magnificence and wonder of the next one, and God's creation is the greatest peek we have into that eternal life. Ladies, look up and behold the wonder of it all!

Looking Up

In today's key verse, Jesus is telling of the future destruction of Jerusalem and the end of time. He is describing dark days and events, but then He says, "When these things begin to take place, stand up and lift up your heads, because your redemption is drawing near." Ladies, the advice of the Lord can be applied to any season in your life. When the end seems near, darkness surrounds you and nothing feels right, stand up and look up--raise up your head! Redemption--your Savior Jesus Christ--is drawing near. My friend, draw near to Him. Lift your eyes from the ground, from the madness all around you, and catch His twinkling eye, the smile on His face, the expression that states, "I am here for you; I am in charge; and you will be fine."

Girlfriends, I challenge you for the next week to walk with head, chin, and eyes lifted high. God is trekking with you; He has your back. 

Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the Lord your God, He is the One who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you. Deuteronomy 31:6

He will catch you if you fall; He may even warn you of the danger if you acknowledge His presence on the journey. 

Seek the Lord while he may be found; call on him while he is near. Isaiah 55:6

Turn off the distractions and converse with Him. Be still and know He is your God. (Psalm 46:10) Seek the wonder of His world and be amazed. Your insight, your vision, your direction will be brighter, clearer and more spectacular. Do as my favorite singer, Mac Powell of Third Day, sings: Lift Up Your Face!! 

My dears, I pray you will see the sun and moon shining instead of the gum and gunk stuck to the ground. I pray you will count the smiling nods you receive and the birds in the trees instead of worrying about stepping on cracks and breaking your mother's back. (Ha Ha- remember that old rhyme from childhood? If not, you probably think I am a cruel idiot right about now!) I pray the treasure you find in the colorful clouds of a beautiful sunset will be greater than the value of the occasional penny or quarter you may discover on the ground. I pray you will walk hand in hand, sharing with your best friend, instead of wandering aimlessly with cellular or electronic device in hand searching for affirmation from your virtual friends. Most of all, I pray you know and accept the love of God, your Savior Christ, and the indwelling Spirit of the Lord, whose beauty will grace your life forever more. Look Up!

Change Ahead

 

“It is well for us that, amidst all the variableness of life, there is One whom change cannot affect; One whose heart can never alter, and on whose brow mutability can make no furrows.”  

~ Charles Spurgeon

"The only constant in life is change."

I am not sure who first made this profound yet obvious statement, but my life is a testimony to its truthfulness. Can anyone else relate?

Change.
Change my mind. Change a diaper. Change the oil in the car. Change in the sofa to buy a gallon of milk. Change the sheets. Change a light bulb. Change schools. Change jobs. Change in the date night jar.
Change.

Sometimes things change when I wish they would stay the same. Other moments I long for change but change does not occur.

Change begins from the moment of birth, when we leave behind the safe, gentle, and warm comfort of the womb for the cold, bright, and sometimes harsh reality of this world.  Adam and Eve experienced change when they were ejected from the Garden of Eden. Wow, what a change that must have been, having previously found all of their needs, wants, and aspirations met in the Lord only to find that their desire for change, to know the mind of God, brought them the biggest transition ever.

So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate, and she also gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate.Genesis 3:6 ESV

So the Lord God banished him from the Garden of Eden to work the ground from which he had been taken. Genesis 3:23

Change.
Change of residence. Change in relationships. Change of clothes. Change in the hearts of all men and women.

Change comes when we least expect it, yet if we keep our eyes focused upon God, the signs are often present. The world experienced significant change in the time of Noah simply because all had turned away from God's goodness and commands. The flood changed the topography, the geography, the geology, and genealogy of the earth. By the sign of the rainbow, God promised never to make that kind of change again. Yet His people continued to divorce themselves from Him; never content, never satisfied. Always desiring change.


The Lord saw how great the wickedness of the human race had become on the earth, and that every inclination of the thoughts of the human heart was only evil all the time. The Lord regretted that he had made human beings on the earth, and his heart was deeply troubled. So the Lord said, “I will wipe from the face of the earth the human race I have created—and with them the animals, the birds and the creatures that move along the ground—for I regret that I have made them." But Noah found favor in the eyes of the Lord. Genesis 6:5-8

Change is inevitable, and usually a by-product of our own action or inaction. God changed not only Abram and Sarai's names to Abraham and Sarah, but He changed the course of history when He gave them a son and made Abraham the father of all nations. But Abraham also instigated a change which has brought unrest in the world to present day when he could not wait for God's promised change in his status as a father. Abraham took Sarah's servant and had a child called Ishmael, from whom the Muslims descend. 

Change can indicate a new favor or mission in the eyes of the Lord. God changed Jacob's name to Israel "because you have struggled with God and with humans and have overcome.”Genesis 32:8 God changed Saul, a persecutor of Christians, from a man with sight to a blind man and finallyback to a man with true vision when He converted Saul to Paul on the road to Damascus. Placing his hands on Saul, he said, “Brother Saul, the Lord—Jesus, who appeared to you on the road as you were coming here—has sent me so that you may see again and be filled with the Holy Spirit.” Acts 9:17

The point of change is to turn our hearts back to God and His plan and purpose for us. But so often we cannot see through the self-induced stress and angst brought about by change to realize the goodness in store for us. God knows we will experience change, and He gave the prescription for handling it:

Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!  Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:4-7

Girlfriends, you and I will face change in our lives. We can embrace it, or we can resist. Either way, God is the Author of change, and the outcome will remain despite our attitude toward the change. What will suffer however is our progress in our faith as well as our relationship with God and with others. 

I pray today that if you are facing some degree of change, that you will turn to Scripture for guidance and assistance. 

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and shun evil. Proverbs 3:5-7

Remember that God is using change to work in you, drawing you closer to Him and all He designed you to be. 

Therefore if any man is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come. 2 Cor 5:17

And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect. Romans 12:2

Finally, Ladies, remember that while God prescribes change, He, the Lord of all, does not ever change. His Word endures forever; His promises stand true; and He is the unchanging Rock upon which we can build an eternal future. I pray you will make a personal change if you have not already and commit your life to these enduring truths that will guide you forever through this ever-changing world until one day we reach the perfect Heaven. 

God is not man, that he should lie, or a son of man, that he should change his mind. Has he said, and will he not do it? Or has he spoken, and will he not fulfill it? Numbers 23:19

Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change. James 1:17

God Bless you today and always! And don't forget to change the batteries in your smoke detector!

Love Stories

We love because he first loved us.  

1 John 4:19 NIV

A Love Story

"That's so cute." Not exactly the words I expected to hear from my seventeen year old daughter as she read through the funeral bulletin while we stood in line at the wake. My eyes widened as I asked her, "What is so cute?" She held the memorial bulletin out for me to see. (And I promptly moved it about six more inches away from my face so I could indeed read it--teenagers just do not get it!)

Our Love Story

Bob and Shirley met at the Illinois State Fair, August 15, 1953. She was 17 and he was 20. Bob bought Shirley a lemonade and asked her to ride the ferris wheel. They lived happily ever after.

Bob carried this photo (of their first date) in his wallet every day since 1953.

My great aunt and uncle's love story is cute, and sweet, and the fairy tale romance every little girl dreams will come true for her. Bob and Shirley came from truly impoverished backgrounds, but for fifty-nine years, together they developed a rich, treasured life in Monroe, Wisconsin, parenting four beautiful children and creating a legacy of kindness and charity in their community. Their humble, giving spirit shaped them as individuals and as a couple. They will always be remembered as a blessing to the youth of that rural town, and I will always have the honor of calling them my godparents.

Your Love Story

So Jacob served seven years for Rachel and they seemed to him but a few days because of his love for her. Genesis 29:20 NAS

Girlfriends, maybe you have a sweet love story too. Perhaps your Prince Charming swept you off your feet from the first moment you met, just as Bob did Shirley. Or maybe you were the one to initiate the first date like someone I know! Possibly your husband has carried a photo, or letter, or some other memento in his wallet over the years. Or maybe, like Uncle Bob's brother-in-law, your husband has never once removed his wedding in sixty years of marriage. (The hospital threatened to cut it off when he recently had surgery and refused to remove it. As a result, he held his ring fingertip next to his wife's ring fingertip and slid the ring onto her hand until after the surgery when he slid it back in the same manner. Another "how cute" story for my daughter!)

Ladies, I do not know your circumstances, but I do know that some of you are reading this and weeping. You have longed for a sweet love story but the inkwell has been dry. Your pages are still blank. Or maybe your beautiful love story did not have a happy ending, or it is presently falling to pieces. While you are smiling at the sweetness of Bob and Shirley's tale, you are hurting or longing deep inside. Take heart, my darlings, and continue reading...

Your True Love Story

On whichever end of the spectrum you find yourself, I want you to know that you have another love story to tell--one perhaps you know very well, or one you are not even aware is happening. Either way, I promise each one of you possesses this story because it is the story of God's perfect love for you. 

 For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 8:38-39 NIV

My friend, even before you were conceived in your mother's womb, you were loved by God. He knew everything about you, and He cherished each detail: from your hair color to the shape of your face, from your personality to your special talents. He has always carried an image of you in His heart. He wrote you beautiful poems and stories; He fashioned the skies, the stars, the flowers, the fields, and the heavens for you; Girlfriends, He even came to earth as a Man and died for you because He loved you so much and wants you to be with Him eternally. No other love compares to this one--it is perfect love. And every love you have here in earth, as today's key verse states, exists because you were first loved by God.

My dears, Jesus is seeking you, pursuing you, desiring you to know His love and to return His love. All you have to do, if you have not already, is say yes. Your love story is exclusively penned by the author of love, the Creator of love, the one Who IS love. I pray you will embrace it--no fairy tale, not even the most romantic earthly love, can replace the depth and completeness of your Savior's love for you. 

You Love Because You Were First Loved

My Aunt Shirley and Uncle Bob knew the love of Jesus, and they lived it out both in their own marriage and individually in their lives of service to others. Girlfriends, live in the light of the greatest love of all, knowing this story is yours too, and if you accept it, the ending is always happy!

See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are...1 John 3:1 NIV

Have a blessed weekend, and let your loved ones know how much they mean to you!

A Song in Honor of Bob and Shirley: God Gave Me You by Dave Barnes 

How May I Serve You?

Be shepherds of God’s flock that is under your care, 

watching over them—not because you must, 

but because you are willing, as God wants you to be; 

not pursuing dishonest gain, but eager to serve; 

Not domineering over those in your charge, 

but being examples to the flock.

1 Peter 5:2-3 ESV

How may I serve you today, my dear girlfriends? Scrub your floors? Clean your toilets? Wipe down the sinks?

Before you think I have gone completely crazy, or am soliciting business for Merry Maids, let me tell you a story. I have a friend whose son is in his early 20's. This young man took an entry level position at a company. In a short amount of time, his hard work was acknowledged and resulted in a promotion to a supervisor. As one of his first acts as a manager, this young man cleaned the nasty bathrooms at his place of employment. Can you imagine his new subordinates observing this act? Perhaps at first they were resentful that this new guy had gotten a promotion so quickly, or that this youngster was going to be bossing them around? Just when their righteous indignation was fully in flames, the guy goes and cleans the toilets. Really? What's up with that?

Well, as a manager, my friend's son took the example of Christ to heart and decided to truly model the servant leader. He saw a problem: disgusting restroom facilities. He knew the solution: daily cleaning and maintenance. He humbled himself and placed his name at the top of the rotation for this sanitizing schedule. Then, he informed his subordinates that they would each be assigned a day of the week, including himself, for maintaining the conditions of the restrooms. Impressive!

Jesus was really on to something when he told us in Luke 22:26 "Rather, let the greatest among you become as the youngest, and the leader as one who serves."  I am fascinated that my friend's son enacted this principle in such a humbling and base manner. Not many young people lower themselves to such tasks. Pondering the consequences and potential results, I believe that his workers will follow him as a leader into large battles now that they have seen his faithfulness to them in the small, menial tasks. Showing them firsthand that he is willing to enter the trenches as their leader, or urinals as the case may have it, speaks volumes about this man's dedication to his workers and employer.

Was this also the result Jesus desired? If the disciples observed Him washing feet--one of the lowest acts performed by servants in His day--would they definitely not follow Him to the death as their leader and Messiah in the larger task of spreading the Gospel to the lost world? And how much more were they bound to one another through the washing of each others' feet as well?

And Jesus called them to him and said to them, “You know that those who are considered rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their great ones exercise authority over them. But it shall not be so among you. But whoever would be great among you must be your servant, and whoever would be first among you must be slave of all. For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” Mark 10:42-45

Living to serve...Serving as a way of life...leading by example...giving upyour life for the many...not lording authority over others...a slave to all. Powerful words, compelling us to examine our ways. Ladies, I pray the Lord's example will touch you in some special way today as you determine the direction of your leadership life--and make no mistake, you are all leading someone, somehow.

Servant leadership...how can I assist you today? I am here, toilet wand and Lysol in hand...just a phone call or email away!

I love you, my dear friends! Be blessed.

Happy Father's Day Weekend

  "Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” 

Joshua 1:9 NIV

Happy Father's Day weekend, Girlfriends!

Whether your earthly father is living or passed on, I pray you will honor his life before the Lord this Sunday. 

Fathers seem to battle for recognition behind the mamas of the world! History proves my claim: After hearing a sermon about Mother's Day in 1909, a young woman from Spokane, who was being raised along with five other siblings by her widowed, Civil War veteran father, decided that he too should have a day of honor. She spoke to her pastor about the idea and began promoting Father's Day; however, the road to official recognition was long and tumultuous, culminating in 1972 when President Nixon signed the law recognizing the third Sunday in June as Father's Day.

Why is it so difficult for many people to adore and celebrate their father? I mean, picking out that card takes forever compared to the one for mom: every card seems like it was written just for mom, but I have to read ten times as many Hallmarks to find the one that fits dad. And then I settle on the "funny" vs. the "sentimental" and I am not even sure why. 

I asked my daughter the question I just posed above. Her response provided some insight from a teen perspective, yet I believe has universal truth in it. Basically, her answer included today's key verse. Dad is the one who is a continuous source of strength, emboldening children to show courage and to conquer fear. He is the hidden force behind each battle fought, and as a child, we look to dad expecting not only to find him present but also rock solid and prepared to charge forward should we need back-up. In contrast, we look to mom for arms to hold us and a shoulder upon which to weep, for comfort and care, even when she includes encouragement, inspiration, or advice into her nurturing. 

Leaning on dad and expecting his presence should not diminish our ability nor desire to thank and praise him. Yet somehow we often interpret dad's strength as a wall against weakness, and we associate weakness with passion and emotional expression. Hence the difficulty in choosing that appropriate and meaningful Hallmark card over the humorous or light-hearted sentimental one.

And then God steps in...our Father in heaven...our ultimate example of what it means to be a dad. And what does He have to say about all of this? Girlfriends, be encouraged, because the pinnacle source of strength, encouragement, guidance, defense, and rock-solid love says go ahead--glorify me! Honor me! Thank me! Remember me in all your days on earth! God is not embarrassed by our songs of praise and admiration; He is not diminished in His authority or power because we call out to be held by Him, to be loved by Jesus, or to be adored in His eyes. Actually, He instructs us to do so, and also makes statements about those who choose NOT to praise the Lord:

Yes, they knew God, but they wouldn't worship him as God or even give him thanks. And they began to think up foolish ideas of what God was like. As a result, their minds became dark and confused. Romans 1:21 NLT

Ladies, your heavenly Father wants your gratitutde and worship, and He wants you to extend the same to your earthly fathers. Do not hold back--strength does not preclude affection, adoration, or thanksgiving. Shower dad with love. And praise God as well.

Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever. Psalm 107:1 NIV

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. Mark 12:30 NIV

Let everything that has breath praise the Lord. Psalm 150:6

Through Jesus, therefore, let us continually offer to God a sacrifice of praise—the fruit of lips that openly profess his name. Hebrews 13:15

Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you. Exodus 20:12

Listen to your father, who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when she is old. Proverbs 23:22

So if you haven't yet, go ahead and send that sappy, sweet, sentimental card that pronounces your deepest emotions and love for your dad. Or buy both if you cannot resist a laugh as well! I think dad will appreciate either one. If your father is no longer with you, maybe buy him a card and write it all down anyhow. Finally, ladies, I know for some of you I am speaking Greek...your relationship with your father is so broken and unrelated to anything I have written today. I pray for you to come to Jesus with that pain. Lay your hurt at His feet and ask for healing and restoration. But also know that although sin has overtaken your earthly relationship, your Father in heaven is perfect, loving, and kind, and He waits with open arms for you. He loves you with every ounce of strength in His being, because God is love. Go to Him!

Have a blessed and beautiful weekend, wherever you are!

Sacrifice: Day In, Day Out

Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends....I have called you friends.

John 15:13, 15 NIV

Greetings from Jefferson Barracks National Cemetery in St Louis, Missouri.

Did you know that June 6, 2012, marked the 68th anniversary of D-Day? I had the honor of passing a portion of that day in a special place, the final earthly resting place to thousands of American heroes and heroines. And now today we celebrate both Flag Day in the USA and also the 237th birthday of the US Army. Praise God!

While visiting the St Louis area this past week, I walked through Jefferson Barracks National Cemetery with several different girlfriends from our former hometown.. The setting is quiet, peaceful, and serene. Occasionally, a car will pass on the way to visit the marker of a beloved buried here. Deer gallop gracefully through the grave sites, unaware of the sacrifices and valiant deeds carried out by the persons named on either side of the homogenous, solid white stones. We even encountered a lone fawn curled up next to a headstone of a World War II veteran, as if keeping watch and company of the souls commemorated in this hallowed ground. 

Standing under a tree near the Civil War section of the cemetery, gazing out across the waves of white, cascading over the sloping and rolling terrain, I felt a chill under my skin. I stood in awe and utter amazement at the sheer number of lives laid down for the freedom and prosperity of our nation. I knew not everyone named on a headstone died during active service of this country, but I also had firsthand knowledge of the price otherwise paid by soldier, spouse, and children alike. I related in a special way to the day-to-day laying down of life, freedom, and choice in order to pursue a sense of duty. I felt honored to be among their numbers under the leadership of my husband as a soldier and patriot.

In the devotional My Utmost For His Highest, Oswald Chambers writes, "Jesus does not ask me to die for Him, but to lay down my life for Him. Peter said--'I will lay down my life for Thy sake' and he meant it; his sense of heroic was magnificent. It would be a bad thing to be incapable of making such a declaration as Peter made; the sense of our duty is only realized by our sense of the heroic." (p.122, copyright 1963) Wow! I ask myself, can I stand in a place such as Jefferson Barracks, or any cemetery in America, and not feel the urge to make such a declaration? Can I gaze upon a flag flying today and not acknowledge and appreciate the heroism of my fellow Americans and desire to honor them by my own actions and sacrificial giving? Am I capable? Am I willing?

Oswald Chambers continues, " Has the Lord ever asked you--'Will you lay down your life for My sake?' It is far easier to die than to lay down life day in and day out with the sense of high calling. We are not made for brilliant moments, but we have to walk in the light of them in ordinary ways." (p. 122) Girlfriends, can I say "wow" again? Day in...day out...laying down our own passions, pleasures, desires, and wishes for the greater good and glory, in honor of the one brilliant moment in all of history, the ultimate sacrifice of Jesus Christ, our God, upon the Cross--a moment imitated by so many men and women in the over two thousand years since that day. Day in...day out...relinquishing our rights and our freedoms for the eternal glory of God, for the salvation of His children, and for the freedom to worship and glorify Him--or not. Praying for the "or nots."

Finally, Chambers states, "For thirty three years Jesus laid out His life to do the will of His Father, and, John says, 'we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren.' It is contrary to human nature to do so." (p. 122)  Yes, ladies, it is contrary to our nature to deny ourselves, but as mothers and wives, we understand the nature of sacrifice. I pray you will conquer your will and steady yourselves upon the path to righteousness that is paved with your willingness to forego your own comfort and pleasure for that of others as a result of your love of Christ.

"If I am a friend of Jesus, I have deliberately and carefully to lay down my life for Him. It is difficult, and thank God it is difficult. Salvation is easy because it cost God so much, but the manifestation of it in my life is difficult. God saves a man and endues him with the Holy Spirit, and then says in effect--'Now work it out, be loyal to me, whilst the nature of things around you would make you disloyal.' 'I have called you friends.' Stand loyal to your Friend, and remember that His honor is at stake in your bodily life." (p. 122)

Girlfriends, I could not sum up my emotions and thoughts on this patriotic day any better. I pray in whatever capacity you serve on this earth, that you will be loyal, act honorably, follow the Holy Spirit, acknowledge the sacrifices before you, from God and from your fellow man, and most of all, lay down your life...day in, day out...for your God. I thank you, and I am grateful to the service members, and their families, who rose to the challenge throughout history.

Be blessed today!