The Perfect Gift

 
 Every good and perfect gift is from above, 

coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, 

who does not change like shifting shadows. 

James 1:17 NIV

Good Morning, Girlfriends!

Do you have any specific plans for today? Errands to run? Never-ending to-do list to check off? My guess is you answered "yes" to all of the above because you are after-all a WOMAN!

Gifts

I am feeling pretty good about my to-do list this week. Slowly, I am removing more items than I am adding each day. It is a good feeling for sure! One urgent element pressing on me last week was lingering Christmas gift returns. Here we are, mid-January, and yes, I still have Christmas gift returns to complete. The reason for my delay is directly related to where I now live: Traffic. Traffic. Traffic. And more traffic.

In order to reach the shopping mall where my rejected item was purchased, I have to traverse the crazy, concrete fairway called John Mosby Highway. Under construction the first half of the way to the mall and under heavy use during peak hours of the day the second half of the trip, I have vowed not to wander out before ten am nor past three pm unless I face dire emergency, such as running out of chocolate or ice cream. You know what I mean, ladies! Hence, my delay in making the gift return until now.

Well, I can actually credit my daughter and Victoria's Secret Semi-Annual Sale for the motivation to finally maneuver our way to the mall. While she shopped for over-priced scraps of fabric with miniscule cotton crotches...errrr, I mean, while she searched for the incredible, amazing under-garment bargains, I made my way to the Apple Store to complete my mission. A young, friendly employee greeted me at the entrance of the store. I presented my item to him along with a receipt and a smile. After examining my merchandise, he glanced back up at me, and I flashed him a "please-be-kind-to-me, I-drove-John Mosby Highway-to-get-here" smile. He grinned back, whipped out his iphone-looking device, swiped a card, asked me to sign, and voila, my return was complete. (As a side-note, I have to mention that Apple throws the knock-out punch to stores like Kohls in the gift return arena. While I spent thirty minutes in a line at Kohls that wound through Childrens, Mens, Linens, and Ladies Apparel in order to return one pair of sweatpants, I never even stepped both feet into the Apple Store and was finished in less than five minutes.)

Finished, but not quite. Handing back my original receipt, young Mr. Apple Employee delivered the kicker: "Just so you know, in the future, you missed the return date. I made an exception because you had not opened it, but you were supposed to return this by December 30th." Oooh. Ouch. I had been granted grace and kindness by someone twenty-five years my junior, and he wanted to make sure I knew it! I thanked him warmly and went on my way.

Imperfect Gifts

Strolling slowly through the mall, according my daughter ample time to hunt bargain bras, I contemplated Christmas gift giving. Each fall, I spend an abundant amount of time searching for the perfect gift for each person on my list--a gift that will reveal the love and care in my heart for the recipient as well as appeal to his or her interests, personality, or occupation. I research brand, model, and label; I read reviews and solicit opinions. I inquire about size, color, and style. I battle for availability, delivery, and best price. Once in hand, I seek the ideal hiding place or creatively conceal the item before placing under the tree. The entire process is quite laborious and tedious, yet as a woman, especially satisfying and gratifying....until the day after Christmas!

Returns. Replacements. Regifting. Recycling.
Rejection.

Perfect Gifts

We can easily be offended, as well as give offense, over the entire gifting process unless we acknowledge that our gifts are imperfect, albeit genuine attempts at imitating the perfect Gift Giver. Only God can deliver the flawless Gift each of us not only desires but also requires. How do you know it is the perfect gift? Once received, you will never consider to return, resell, or give it away; never declare the wrong size, color, or type; never desire another gift as much as this one.While at times, this gift may twist, turn, squeeze, shape, remake, and remold you, in the end, you would not trade it for all of the gold nor all of the power in this world. God truly offers the only Perfect Gift.

Girlfriends, Jesus Christ is the ultimate Gift--perfect in every way. In Jesus, God gives us Himself.
The Son is the radiance of God’s glory and the exact representation of his being, sustaining all things by his powerful word. Hebrews 1:3 NIV
 Jesus answered: “Don’t you know me, Philip, even after I have been among you such a long time? Anyone who has seen me has seen the Father. How can you say, ‘Show us the Father’? John 14:9 NIV

Ladies, have you intentionally received and opened your Gift from God? If not, what is holding you back? Tear open the package and marvel at the priceless present you have been offered.

Jesus is the gift that keeps on giving, so to speak. Through Him, you are granted new life, a new birth.
Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. He chose to give us birth through the word of truth, that we might be a kind of firstfruits of all he created. James 1:17-18

Freely confessing your sin and accepting Jesus offers you eternal life.
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16 NIV

You will also receive the in-dwelling of the Holy Spirit, a helper and counselor who will never leave you.
Peter replied, “Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins. And you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit. Acts 2:38

By the Holy Spirit, you procure fruits: But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. (Gal 5:22-23 NIV)

Did I mention the attainment of wisdom? Who among us does not need a little of that one?
If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. James 1:5 NIV 

Finally, while all of the above sounds wonderful and amazing for ourselves, the true result of gifting us with Jesus, is that God is glorified through us, in us, and for us. Reciprocity. We receive; we give back. We are united as one with a perfect and holy God if we only humble ourselves and graciously accept what is offered. 
Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling. Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God’s grace in its various forms. If anyone speaks, he should do it as one speaking the very words of God. If anyone serves, he should do it with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever. Amen. 1 Peter 4:8-11

Open Your Gift

I pray today, Girlfriends, that you remove whatever wrappings are covering your gift (sin, pride, lust, envy, low self-esteem, greed, etc.), toss them aside, and take ownership of the greatest gift ever given you. Celebrate! And, p.s., do not forget to send a thank you card!!!

Love and peace to you all!!

In Debt or Debt Free?

 

^"And I owe it all to you Jesus
I owe it all to you
All my life I lay before you
I owe it all to you."

 I Owe It All 

by Paul Colman

Girlfriends, how are you? I hope you are both good and well in this rampant flu season.

Today, may I also ask, "How are your debts?"
Have any of your conversations of late gone like these:

"Sooooo, honey, how deep in debt are we now that Christmas is over?"

"Does it really matter how much I spent on gifts? I was already so far in debt. I don't know how I will ever get out. I would have to win the lottery to ever pay it all back."

"Ha! I am a poor college student with thousands of dollars in loans. I don't even want to talk about debt. I will be working for years before I am in the black. That is if I can even find a job."

"Yeah, well, at least you did not buy a price inflated house in 2006 which now has you underwater by $100,000. Talk about hopelessly drowning in debt. We will never be able to move."

"Ohhh, please, that's nothing. I heard that Santa had to borrow from the Easter Bunny just to make elf payroll the last week of 2012!"


Debt.

In the United States, we are surrounded by debt. We owe personal debts from sources like schooling, housing, transportation, living expenses, or leisure expenditures. We read the news or turn on the television, and we hear about the growing national debt and the fiscal cliff. As we drive around town, we cannot help noticing the empty storefronts of businesses that collapsed under the weight of debt. Even our kids have debt: "Mom, can we go to the store? I owe Tommy a pack of gum at lunch tomorrow because he gave me his Oreos today at lunch."

Debt.

The dictionary defines debt as "an obligation or liability to pay or render something to someone else." As an American, I cannot imagine a single citizen who has no debt, especially after lavishing gifts upon our loved ones during the season of giving. "Christmas" appears to motivate us to spend beyond our means, whether due to capitalistic trickery or actual altruistic benevolence of the heart.

I owe. You owe. Everybody owes somebody. Yet, we have programs floating around to help people who owe in order to become debt-free. Take Dave Ramsey's plan for example: an amazing concept that seems to be working. I have met many people who rave about Dave Ramsey and boast of their financial freedom.  And while I smile, nod my head, and dream about how wonderful that feeling would be, I also ask myself, "Are any of us truly DEBT FREE until we give our lives to Jesus Christ?"

Debt.

According to thesaurus.com, debt is synonymous with words like "indebtedness," "deficit," "liability," and "obligation." Debt creates a situation where we owe what we do not have the means to repay. We come up short when the bill is due. The funny thing is, we created the bill; we are the authors of the obligation. We are liable. Individually. Collectively. As a nation. United as a people. We are in debt.

Fortunately God has a plan far surpassing anything Dave Ramsey could dream.

Using the Bible, God speaks to us about debt, about forgiving debts owed us and staying out of debt ourselves.

The servant's master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go. Matthew 18:27 NIV

Forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. Matthew 6:12 NIV


Pay to all what is owed to them: taxes to whom taxes are owed, revenue to whom revenue is owed, respect to whom respect is owed, honor to whom honor is owed. Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law. Romans 13:7-8 ESV


There’s danger in putting up security for a stranger’s debt; it’s safer not to guarantee another person’s debt. Proverbs 11:15

The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is slave to the lender. Proverbs 22:7 NIV

But the question remains: Are we in debt to God? If so, what is this debt we cannot repay, so immense that a holy God had to leave His perfect heaven and come to earth as a Man? Girlfriends, this is the biggest debt question I have ever struggled to answer. I believe the answer is complicated. In one respect, I owe God the perfect life He created for me--the one I am unable to maintain as perfect because I choose to sin against Him. On the other hand, I do not owe God because His offer of eternal life and reconciliation with Him is a gift. Gifts are not debts. They cost the Giver, but they do not cost the receiver. And yet, I feel the need to repay God's kindness by glorifying and honoring Him in all I do with the new life He gave me. Complicated. So I turn again to my Bible.

For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. Romans 6:23 KJV

What Paul tells us in Romans is that we should get paid death for our sins--our wages for our sinful life should be death. Yes, we should be dead. But God pays us with life. This is God's great plan of debt-free living. He gifts us eternal life through the sacrifice of Jesus Christ, who lived sinlessly and was still paid death. Jesus took our wages--our death--and in its place, He gave to us eternal life. He bought our lives with His life.

...You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 NIV

Ladies, if I have not already thoroughly confused you, I will conclude with this thought: I am debt-free because I am in debt to Jesus Christ! Remember that definition of debt: "an obligation or liability to pay or render something to someone else"? I may have earthly debts until that day when I return to dust, but I will eternally remain debt free because God gifted me with life bought with the blood of Jesus Christ. For that gift, my soul will forever be thankful and obliged to surrender all to HIM.

I pray today you will wrestle with the debt question and emerge victorious in Christ. You have a choice. 

Peace be with you!

Happy New Year 2013!

Happy New Year, Girlfriends!!!!!

Of course, my friends, I really do not think

 that I have already won it;

 the one thing I do, however,

 is to forget what is behind me

 and do my best to reach what is ahead. 

So I run straight toward the goal 

in order to win the prize, 

which is God's call through Christ Jesus to the life above.

Philippians 3:13-14 GNT 

 

May you follow St Paul's words above: forget what is behind and do your best to reach the goals laid out before you now. Doing your best includes keeping your eye on the prize, Jesus Christ, and connecting with him daily. To that end only should you labor, and I pray you will all be prizeholders when finished. 

God Bless in 2013 and beyond! Love you my Girlfriends!

Merry Christmas!

Suddenly a great company of the heavenly host appeared with the angel, 

praising God and saying  

^\“Glory to God in the highest heaven,
    and on earth peace to those on whom his favor rests.”

When the angels had left them and gone into heaven,

the shepherds said to one another,

 “Let’s go to Bethlehem and see this thing that has happened, 

which the Lord has told us about.”  

Luke 2:13-15 NIV

Merry Christmas, Girlfriends (and all who stumble upon this blog!)

Today we celebrate the birth of our Savior.

Immanuel.

God with us who became God within us. 

As you spend this Christmas with your loved ones, I pray you will also live out the message of today's Gospel above. 

Go...see this thing that has happened. 

Seek the Lord's presence in your world today, and praise Him for it.

 BE His presence in today's world, and praise Him for the opportunity. 

Give glory to God in the highest heaven; extend peace to His people on earth. 

But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart. The shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all the things they had heard and seen, which were just as they had been told. Luke 2:19-20 NIV

 

God came for you. He came for me. He came for His children, wherever they may be. May the peace and love of Jesus Christ rest upon you today and always. I love you all and thank you for a wonderful year of support as I have endeavored to allow God to speak through me in this blog. 

 

God Bless and Merry Christmas. 

 

 

Choose Love: Celebrating in the Midst of Tragedy

See, I have set before you today life and good, death and evil. 

 If you obey the commandments of the Lord your God that I command you today,

 by loving the Lord your God, by walking in his ways,

 and by keeping his commandments and his statutes and his rules,  

then you shall live and multiply, and the Lord your God 

will bless you in the land that you are entering 

to take possession of it. 

But if your heart turns away, and you will not hear, 

but are drawn away to worship other gods and serve them, 

I declare to you today, that you shall surely perish. 

You shall not live long in the land 

that you are going over the Jordan to enter and possess. 

 I call heaven and earth to witness against you today,

 that I have set before you life and death, blessing and curse. 

Therefore choose life, 

that you and your offspring may live, 

loving the Lord your God,

 obeying his voice and holding fast to him,

 for he is your life and length of days, 

that you may dwell in the land 

that the Lord swore to your fathers,

 to Abraham, to Isaac, and to Jacob, to give them.” 

Deuteronomy 30:15-20

Good Monday morning, Girlfriends!

Awaking this morning, I felt compelled to write to you. I bear a heavy heart burdened by sorrow for the victims, the families, and the community of the Newtown shootings. As a child of God and a follower of Christ, my heart broke, and I knew once again God's was also breaking, when I heard the news of the shooting rampage. As a mother of four children, I could not fathom the depths of pain and agony felt by the parents of both the adults and the children murdered. My gut reaction, I am sure shared by many others, was to gather my flock in my home and hold them safely under my wings. Letting them fly has been the most difficult task for me, but in moments like this one, even more so. 

While reading and listening to the news reports, I have followed this unfolding tragedy. Many thoughts raced through my mind and even more emotions through my heart and soul. I watched the community of Newtown turn to the local church leaders and to their faith to express grief and anguish. I am sure many asked how a loving God could allow this to happen? I know that question crossed my mind as well. Years ago, I would not have had an explanation. This week, I am grateful that I am solid on the rock of my faith, in my belief in the goodness of our God in heaven, and the knowledge that evil exists in this world. I know that God is ultimately in control and has defeated death when He died on a cross and rose again. In the end, Satan will no longer exist; however, until the time when Christ comes again, we have to live in a world stained with sin, haunted by Satan, who seeks to destroy. His method is to take advantage of God's great gift to man: free will.

He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young. Isaiah 40:11

Girlfriends, God created us out of love, so that we too could love. Yet, in His infinite wisdom, He knew that in order for love to be genuine, He also had to give us the gift of choice. (Think of all of the people who love you: Would you feel that same sense of warmth and security if you knew that each and every one of them was programmed and ordered to love you and were not loving you by their own choice?) As written in today's key verses, God granted us free will to choose to love, or to turn away from love and choose our own way. And that, ladies, is the answer to the question how a good and merciful God could allow this Newtown tragedy to occur. God gifted that man with life and the opportunity to love, and that man chose by his own will to follow the ways of Satan and of this world. He chose to murder.

Today, I read an ABC News report that contained the following: "Some residents of Newtown, a picturesque New England community, began taking down Christmas decorations in the wake of the slayings." I am extraordinarily saddened if this report is true. I wish I had a way to reach each one of those people and encourage them to leave the decorations in place. Why? Because to take them down is to further encourage Satan and his legions.

Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.  1 Peter 5:8

Precisely what Satan desires is for the world to NOT acknowledge and celebrate the Savior Christ. Ladies, now more than ever, we need to lift up the Lord on high. We already have groups like Freedom From Religion Foundation in Wisconsin who search for citizens who are publicly acknowledging Christ. Then this group files lawsuits to prevent expression and recognition of faith. And unfortunately, America has been caving in to them. Manger scenes are dismantled; the Ten Commandments and the name God are deleted and removed from view; crosses are torn off sports uniforms or covered with drapes during graduation ceremonies; prayer is banned. The list of ways we have dishonored God in this nation is endless and shameful. So I wonder why then do the grieving yet believeing residents of Newtown willingly choose to take down their decorations? Leave them up, people! Celebrate in the middle of your crisis because your God is on His throne in heaven, and He has not and will not abandon you.

Girlfriends, death is distressing and dreadful. Murder is ghastly and horrific. Because we love, our hearts will grieve, will be broken and afflicted. Yet, because of the love of God, we will not mourn forever. Restoration came on that Christmas Day and is coming again to finish His work. That promise is worthy of celebration, even in the midst of tragedy. So decorate your homes, your yards, your workplace, your schools, and display the love of Christ for all to see, hear, and know. You have the gift of choice: Deny Satan his satisfaction. Choose LOVE. CELEBRATE the CHRIST in Christmas.

Glory, praise, and honor to you, Almighty God, forever and ever. AMEN.

For to this end we toil and strive, because we have our hope set on the living God, who is the Savior of all people, especially of those who believe. 1 Timothy 4:10

Love and Humility

Humility isn't thinking less of yourself but thinking of yourself less.

Above all, love each other deeply, 

because love covers over a multitude of sins.

 Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling.

1 Peter 4:8-9 NIV

 

Girlfriends, Good Morning from my new home in northern Virginia!

Ladies, the Christmas season is directly upon us. Enjoy every moment of wonder and awe, looking and seeing through the eyes of your inner child. Your perspective will certainly change, especially in regard to the people around you this December!

I recently completed a study of 1 Peter. Yesterday morning, I sat down at the kitchen table and reread the entire book aloud to my dog, Oreo. (She was mesmerized by every word rolling off my tongue. I could tell by how loud she was snoring!) I, on the other hand, was intrigued by the numerous verses instructing us on how to treat one another. "God's perfect timing and direction," I thought, since we are in the season of hustle, bustle, and fight tooth and nail for every parking spot and position in the check-out line.

In this epistle, the apostle Peter is writing to believers scattered throughout the Roman Empire who are suffering persecution for their belief in Christ. How appropriate is it then that he desires for them to be in unity and love with one another? Peter knows that the outside world is cruel enough; why should we also torture one another with hateful and hurtful words and actions? Believers who are born again in Christ are family, and who should love you the most and care the deepest but your family? Yet God knows, and expresses through Peter's writing, that family can often be very cruel to one another, out of jealousy, pride, and insecurity. Hence his deluge of directions regarding our treatment of one another and how to "love...with all your heart."

Now that by your obedience to the truth you have purified yourselves and have come to have a sincere love for other believers, love one another earnestly with all your heart. For through the living and eternal word of God you have been born again as the children of a parent who is immortal, not mortal. As the scripture says, "All human beings are like grass, and all their glory is like wild flowers. The grass withers, and the flowers fall, but the word of the Lord remains forever." 1 Peter 1 :22-25 GNT

What a wonderful word picture God paints: we are like the brown grass marking my front lawn right now; like the wilting carnations in the vase on my kitchen table. Ladies, we will not last long on this earth, but God's Word stands and so too will the legacy we leave behind. Future family gatherings and traditions will be affected by the love, or hate, we show one another right now. Our children will pass on to future generations not only the stories of Christmas past, but also the behaviors they imitate from us. Will tolerance and respect prevail around the festive feasts of the future? Will charity, generosity, and good will flow from the fingertips and pocketbooks of our grandchildren because we joyfully and willingly gave to the needy of our day?

Therefore, rid yourselves of all malice and all deceit, hypocrisy, envy, and slander of every kind. Like newborn babies, crave pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow up in your salvation, now that you have tasted that the Lord is good. 1 Peter 2:1-3

Remember my suggestion earlier: see Christmas through the eyes of your inner child and change your perspective? God also commands us change our appetite back to that of our infancy, to crave spiritual milk (which I hear goes well with frosted sugar cookies and gingerbread men!) Girlfriends, nourish your soul with God's Word and grow into women full of love for His people and His creation.

Finally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble. Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing. 1 Peter 3: 8-9

My husband texts our children a Quote of the Day every morning. (And since we are on eastern time and he leaves for work at 5:30 am, you know they so dearly appreciate the wake up call, especially the child living in California!) Today's quote stuck with me as I prepared to write this blog:

"Rudeness is a weak man's imitation of strength." Eric Hoffer  

I do not know who is Eric Hoffer (and since I typed that you know I have to take a break and Google it) but I know his statement rings with truth. Jesus taught that the weak will be strong, that the humble will inherit the earth. So why is it so easy for some people to be rude? Why is it so difficult to "be humble toward one another, always considering others better than yourselves."? Philippians 2:3 GNT 

I believe the most likely answer is pride. Consciously or not, we often do consider ourselves better than some others, and we do not hesitate to say so or show it. But the instruction from God in Philippians 2:3 is "to consider; to count; to value" others better than yourself, depending upon the translation you read. All of these words imply a choice; yes, we have a choice to place others first and to humble ourselves before the Lord. We may find it extremely challenging to humble ourselves before certain annoying people; however, humbling ourselves before the Lord, or for the Lord, shifts the focus and eases the difficulty. Girlfriends, what choice will you make this Christmas season?

Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling. Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms. If anyone speaks, they should do so as one who speaks the very words of God. If anyone serves, they should do so with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever. Amen. 1 Peter 4:8-11 NIV

Ladies, I pray you will truly find joy and peace emanating from placing others first: whether on the highways, in the shopping malls, from the giving trees, around your neighborhoods, or during the family feasts and celebrations. May the Lord empower you, softening your heart and strengthening your will (and ability to hold your tongue.) Love and forgive one another as God loves and forgives you.

Girlfriends, I love you, each and every one.

Happy Holidays!!!!

 

I Ate All of Your Candy!

 

 Food gained by fraud tastes sweet to a man, 

but he ends up with a mouth full of gravel. 

Proverbs 20:17

Hello My Dear, Sweet Girlfriends!

Here we are in November 2012, ALREADY! The older I get, the faster the clock seems to tick. Time. I never have enough of that commodity, especially at this time of the year: the holiday season.

Halloween is barely past us and now we look forward to Thanksgiving, which is a funny thing because I, for one, am very thankful for Halloween candy, especially the chocolate variety! Apparently, I am not alone in my love of candy. Today my daughter posted a YouTube video on Facebook of Jimmy Kimmel's parent Halloween prank on kids. Click here and take a look:  I Told My Kid I Ate All Their Halloween Candy Again.

Admit it, you smiled just a little!

Watching the video at the kitchen table and frightening the dogs with my loud laughter, my mind formulated two questions: What would my response have been as a child, and how would my own children have responded? Well, actually I thought three things, because immediately I felt this sense of shame and guilt  come over me as I wondered, "How embarrassed would I be by the answer to the first two questions?" Years ago, when they were little ones like the kids in the video, I am sure I would not have even thought to ask the third question. I was a baby Christian, still immature and beginning to grow in faith. Materialism and attachment to things of this world, even candy, were part of my old sin nature.

Today, however, after my initial reaction of laughter and amusement at the video clips, I was overcome by the absurdity of it all. We cry and throw fits over someone eating our CANDY. Ok, so for some of us, it is not candy; instead we kick, scream, and wail if someone eats our food, drives our car, spends our cash or uses our credit, wears our clothing, uses our computer, takes our job, or wastes our time. Attached to the things of this world, we miss the bigger picture: Every day is an opportunity to humble ourselves and bless someone else through our giving.

Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, 

and where thieves break in and steal. Matthew 6:19

Why do we hold so tightly to our "stuff"? What do our belongings  mean to us that giving them away does not? Do I need five pounds of candy? Do I need twelve pair of jeans or twenty sweaters? Am I unable to live without my computer for an hour or my car for a day? Would it kill me to slow down, be patient, enjoy breathing, and maybe connect with someone while I wait in line?

Girlfriends, I am not saying I would not be a little ticked if my mom ate all of my Halloween candy (sorry Mom). God is still doing a work in me called sanctification, working out that old nature that lingers in my new Christ-centered self. I am far from perfect simply because I accepted Jesus as my Savior. I am guessing even St. Paul would have cried if all of his Butterfingers and Snickers disappeared at once, for he tells us in Romans 7:18-20:

I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For what I do is not the good I want to do; no, the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.

Ladies, my observation today is simply this: many times in life we behave like spoiled children who want nothing more than to gorge ourselves on the "candy" of this earth and who explode into tantrums when we cannot have what we want. Thankfully, Jimmy Kimmel's producers and editors had the good sense to end the film with the responses from some wonderful kids who seem "to get it." In contrast to throwing water bottles and crying uncontrollably, how sweet are the children who only want their parent to be happy or who look forward to next year when they can share the candy with mom? Without saying a word, those kids are screaming, "People, it is only CANDY." Love and kindness are sweeter than anything Nestle or Hershey could ever produce.

Today, I pray that we will all reflect upon our response to others when they want or need (or even steal) something from us. Are we too attached, or can we find joy in giving it freely away? How can we bless someone today?

More than anything, I want to offer the sweet words of eternal life to you, my Girlfriends. While we were separated from God by our sin, He came to earth to be our sin, suffered, died, and conquered death so that you and I may have eternal life through our acknowledgement of our sin, our repentance, and our faith in the work of Jesus on the Cross. If you have not taken these steps,I pray that today will be the start of your new life in Christ, one deeper and richer than any vat of chocolate! Be blessed!

How sweet are your words to my taste, sweeter than honey to my mouth! I gain understanding from your precepts; therefore I hate every wrong path. Psalm 119:103-104

Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. Proverbs 16:24

For Where Your Treasure Is

"Sell your possessions and give to the poor. 

Provide purses for yourselves that will not wear out, 

a treasure in heaven that will never fail, 

where no thief comes near and no moth destroys.

  For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also."

Luke 12:33-34

Good Friday Morning, my dear and sweet Girlfriends!

Today, I simply had to sit down in the middle of my literal "mess" and write to you. I have piles surrounding me everywhere I look: trash piles, donate piles, return-to-owner piles, give-to-friends/family piles, and do not pack piles. Yes, Girlfriends, moving day is upon us. Monday the movers come and the transition begins.

Can I tell you, though, that I have not seen the light of day in over a week. Yes, the ugly truth is that I have been buried in the "stuff" stored in closets, drawers, and the dreaded basement storage areas. Sorting through our entire house, I am amazed at the amount of possessions we have accumulated over the years. Yet why should I be surprised when I am the person who did the majority of the purchasing and collecting! Oh, and then I passed that bad habit on to three girls who also purchased and collected, and then moved to college and left most of it with me.

Clothing, purses, shoes, furniture, home decor, toys, craft items, electronics, food...buy buy buy....make me happy, give me pleasure....but did they really? That is the question I am asking myself today. Did all of this "stuff" really and truly bring me happiness? For a few fleeting moments, the answer was probably yes. The thrill of the hunt for that great bargain or that special, long-desired treasure brings a rush of adrenaline which persists until the newness wears off or the newer model, style, or upgrade hits the market. Then it is time to start the hunt all over again. 

Sadly, however, that adrenaline is a rush that is fleeting. As I move around this house, purging and prepping for packing, what truly stands out in my mind are moments...(sigh) moments... moments engaging with people and with the Lord in each room.  

In my kitchen, the stainless steel appliances are shiny and cold but the memories are warm and comforting as I reminisce about the past four years. Sitting at the marker and pen stained kitchen table, I passed numerous hours with the Lord, immersed in His Word as I read, worshiped, planned, and studied for small group lessons or FCA meetings  At the breakfast bar, countless conversations with the kids transpired while they snacked after school, or sat relaxing on weekends and during return visits home. That same counter top served as a buffet table for every celebration and gathering: from holidays to birthdays, graduations to wedding showers, Super Bowl days to my annual cookie exchange Christmas party. Old and new friends, family, and even strangers have gathered in this kitchen, praying together for God's blessing over our food and our lives. I cannot recall the fancy dishes nor the food nor the latest gadgets used for its preparation, but I can remember every face and every laugh, and even the tears, that were shared as we ate. 

In the family room sits a new sectional couch and the outdated-the-moment-we-opened-the-box HD television, but ringing in my ears is the laughter of ladies and the popping of bubble wrap as I recall last year's Christmas party and the release of holiday stress with every stomp on the wrap. I can see my son wrestling on the floor with his dad or sisters, the sounds of "get-off-me, I-can't-breathe" reverberating off the walls. I envision the girls and their dates to homecoming and prom standing in front of the fireplace with cameras flashing. A tear falls as I recall family photos taken just before my husband left to Afghanistan, but the tears turn to joy recalling the surprised looks and screams of elation from the kids when he walked into the room on Christmas leave. The heat of the fireplace is nothing compared to the warmth in my heart sparked by these remembrances. 

Upstairs are closets full of shoes, purses, suits, sweaters, tshirts and hoodies but my soul is clothed in love, grace, mercy, and joy. If the walls could speak, they would ignore their Martha Stewart paint, Ikea shelves, and Cardinals Fathead sticker. Instead, their story would include both heartache and happiness, recalling my daughters' pain and frustration during the first years of adjustment to moving in the middle of high school and having left amazing friendships and a boyfriend. In the middle of one of the worst nights, the tale would be told of a young boy opening his Bible to Isaiah 43, copying what he read in God's Word into a letter to his grieving sister, and bringing it to her room as encouragement to hold fast to the Lord. (And of the mother keeping that letter in her Bible as a reminder of the importance of her work teaching her children to hide God's word in their heart.) 

"When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. For I am the Lord, your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior." Isaiah 43:2-3

The stories would also include sleepovers with friends and cousins, homework and helping each other study for tests, anticipation for a Hawaiian vacation, and excitement for the move to college. Of course, no biography of a boy is complete without mention of hours playing Xbox Live with friends and family over the internet. But the question remains, does the Xbox create happiness or is it interaction with others that the boy craves? As we prepare to leave these walls behind, I am positive it is the latter. My son is focused on passing his last weeks in person with friends while the Xbox sits idle in his room. 

Girlfriends, let us state again today's key verse:

"Sell your possessions and give to the poor. 

Provide purses for yourselves that will not wear out, 

a treasure in heaven that will never fail, 

where no thief comes near and no moth destroys.

  For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also."

Luke 12:33-34

Let us focus not on Coach or Prada purses but on purses sewn of the fruits of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, goodness, kindness, faithfulness, gentleness, patience, and self-control. (Galatians 5:22-23) Let us store our treasures not in cabinets, closets, and basements, but in our surrendered hearts protected by the Lord, where no thief comes near nor moth destroys. Let us invest more in our relationships with family, friends, and the people around us than we invest in earthly goods which only end up in "piles" engulfing us: piles of garbage, piles of discard, piles of wasted resources and time which can never be regained, piles that promised happiness but stole our joy. 

"And whatever my eyes desired I did not keep from them. I kept my heart from no pleasure, for my heart found pleasure in all my toil, and this was my reward for all my toil. Then I considered all that my hands had done and the toil I had expended in doing it, and behold, all was vanity and a striving after wind, and there was nothing to be gained under the sun." Ecclesiastes 2:10-11 

Ladies, as I pack all we own to move thousands of miles away, not one thing in any box or crate means more to me than the love I have in my heart both for Jesus Christ, my Lord and Savior, and for my family and friends. God is always faithful to me, and I am a new person since I humbled myself before Him and asked for His saving grace. My family and friends have honored me over and over and over again with their precious love, prayers, support, and companionship. I surely possess the greatest treasures of all eternity. 

I pray you will examine your heart today and ask yourself if you can state the same? Is your treasure in things of this world which will fade away, or is it in heaven where you will last forever? '"For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." Have you given your heart to Jesus? Have you humbled yourself, accepting your sin and asking for His everlasting forgiveness? Have you asked Him to be your Savior, from yourself and from the world? I pray you will loosen your tight grasp of earthly wants and ways, open your hands wide, lift them to the heavens, and find that by letting go you now possess the greatest, most valuable prize you could ever own: salvation of your soul and eternal life. And that, Girlfriends, is something you do not need to put in a box and load on a truck to take with you wherever you go. God now lives inside you by the power of the Holy Spirit and will never, ever leave you. Amen!

I Am Peaceful

The Lord is at hand;  

do not be anxious about anything, 

but in everything

 by prayer and supplication

 with thanksgiving

 let your requests be made known to God.  

And the peace of God, 

which surpasses all understanding, 

will guard your hearts

 and your minds in Christ Jesus. 

Philippians 4:5-7

Good morning, Girlfriends!

How are you today? 

"I am peaceful; thank you for asking."

I am interested to know how many of you would respond to that question this way? If I had to guess, I'd say, oh, about....ZERO. In today's world, peace does not seem to be the reigning state of mind or heart. Instead, we are more likely to be anxious, stressed out, busy, occupied, sad, concerned, depressed, or sick. Once in a while, that questions catches us on a good day--probably a Saturday--and we might respond with a more positive tone, proclaiming temporary happiness and contentment. Check back a day or two later, though, and most likely we will have reverted back to the former answers. Ladies, I admit, I have never heard anyone, including myself, admit to a peace-filled state of existence. Never. Not once.

Until today. 

Surprise! The words came straight out of ME. Yes, Girlfriends, I am peaceful. Thank you for asking. 

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid. John 14:7 ESV

Not as the world gives...

Ladies, I have every earthly reason to be in a state of complete turmoil and emotional upheaval right now: 

1. I am married. I am a mother. I am a daughter. 2. My husband started a new job five states away this week. I miss him. 3. We are moving. I am still here, trying to sell our house in an over-saturated, deflated market. We are going to lose thousands of dollars. 4. My teenage son does not want to move. I am the mom he loves, but I am the enemy moving him. Love/hate relationships. I feel his pain. 5. Another daughter left home to college last month. I miss my babies, aka my lovely daughters. I am trying to be a good, long-distance parent, nurturing tender wings as they encounter the harsh winds of real life. 6. My oldest daughter is in extreme physical pain from a life-altering, medical error. I hurt because she is hurting. I can't fix it. I am pleading with God to heal her. She wants answers, including Why? I can't answer. I try to lead her to the One who can. 7. This same daughter's husband started a new job this week. She is moving to the opposite coast from where I am moving. 8. I am going to miss my mom. And sister. And mom-in-law. And girlfriends. I wish I had been a better daughter. I want to take them with me. 

"I am peaceful; thank you for asking."

Girlfriends, in the midst of life's pandemonium, this tumultuous turmoil, I have peace. Despite all these circumstances swirling around me, surpassing all understanding, the peace of Christ is guarding my heart and mind. 

Peace did not find me, however. I had to go after it. Go after Him. Seek Him. Pursue Peace. God, in His grace and mercy, offered me His peace but the work was mine to do. Do not get me wrong. I did not earn it. Peace was freely given to me. But I had to choose to claim it. I could be anxious and worried, stressed and depressed, or I could follow His Word:

do not be anxious about anything, 

but in everything

 by prayer and supplication

 with thanksgiving

 let your requests be made known to God. Phil 4:5-6

My peace comes from trusting God. I give Him thanks and praise, even in the difficult times. I believe He is who and what He says He is. As proof, which we humans seem to demand, I stand on His examples of past faithfulness. To me. To my family. To others I know. To His beloved people written about in His Word. I submit my life to Him: the good, the bad, the ugly, the in-between. I chose to offer every issue up in prayer and then trust in His will and His plan, which is far greater than I will ever understand. 

For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
    neither are your ways my ways,”
declares the Lord.“As the heavens are higher than the earth,
    so are my ways higher than your ways
    and my thoughts than your thoughts."

Isaiah 55:8-9

Ladies, peace is yours. Take hold of God's will for you. I pray today that you will seek the peace that passes all understanding. Do not sit idly by, waiting for it to come upon you. Do the work. Make the choice. I pray you will choose Jesus. Give thanks. Give praise. Lift up your face. Lift up your life daily. Peace is lasting but your efforts cannot be fleeting: prayer today, gone tomorrow. Be consistent and persistent in your pursuit. And be patient. Wait for the LORD; be strong and take heart and wait for the LORD. Psalm 27:14

So, I ask you Girlfriends, how are you today?

Peace be with you.

Appraised Value

Consider the ravens: 
They do not sow or reap, they have no storeroom or barn; 
yet God feeds them.
 And how much more valuable you are than birds! 
Luke 12:24

 “Consider how the wild flowers grow. 
They do not labor or spin. 
Yet I tell you, not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these.  
If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, 
which is here today, and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, 
how much more will he clothe you—you of little faith!
 Luke 12:27-28

 “Do not be afraid, little flock, 
for your Father has been pleased to give you the kingdom. 
Luke 12:32

“For God so loved the world 
that he gave his one and only Son 
 that whoever believes in him
 shall not perish but have eternal life. 
John 3:16   

Hello Girlfriends!
I hope you had a "labor free" Labor Day weekend. Oh, wait, there is no such thing for a woman, right? Our work is never done. By the time we clean the house top to bottom, we have to go up to the top and start all over again!


Personally, I have had my fill of cleaning these past few months. In order to put our home on the real estate market, we had to do some serious purging, organizing, scouring, and polishing. Worse yet, we have to keep the place immaculate on the remote chance a potential buyer wants to pop in at thirty minutes' notice. The good Lord knows we would not want anyone to lower their offer because our beds are unmade, the sock drawer is hanging open, or the kitchen counter is covered in crumbs.

Speaking of offers, a part of the moving process involves appraisals and inspections before we're given a buy-out offer. Hoping to add value to the appraisal price, we spent countless hours working on our house, making repairs, adding upgrades, mending flaws, and replacing the broken and worn pieces. At the mercy of relocation appraisers for the sale price of our home, we knew we had to make everything perfect in order to earn the highest amount possible. I was devastated when the first appraiser came back $100,000 less than we had purchased our home. Ladies, I literally sat down and cried for thirty minutes straight before I called my husband and continued the meltdown over the phone! How could this man come to this conclusion, especially after all the work we had put into the house? Was our investment seriously worth so little? Hadn't we done enough to earn a better price?

The next seven days were agonizing as we awaited the second appraisers report; however, in the midst of those nervous moments, this blog was born. I turned to God in prayer, asking for the second appraiser to come to the conclusion that our home was worth more. Worth more. Worth more....more valuable....valuable appraisal....these words started ringing in my head. I was focused on all the effort we had given to "earn it."

Suddenly, my thoughts shifted to my own life and relationships. Was I tying my value to my work, to my house, to the appraisals others gave of me? God quickly answered: "YOU don't have to earn my love. YOU are worth more. YOU are of value to Me just as you are." No upgrades. No replacements. No attempts at mending will ever increase the price God is willing to pay--because He already paid it. He paid it in the blood of His only Son, and He paid the premium--the highest--the largest sum possible. Willingly, He paid it all... for me....for you.....for us.

Girlfriends, God says you don't need to labor to increase your worth, to elevate your value or position. You do not need the appraisals or inspections of men to know that you are solid gold--priceless--in the eyes of your Savior. Your value is in His love for you, and God knows you are worth it all--worth the incarnation of  Himself, the sending of Christ (God in the flesh) to this earth to give us a living example. You are worth dying a horrible death on the cross. You are worth rising, conquering death, and claiming victory over the evil one, who wants you to think you have to earn it.

Ladies, that is true value, that we are someone worth God dying for. We don't have to struggle to add value to ourselves-- to lose weight, educate, impersonate, accomodate, compensate, accumulate, deviate--NO. None of these things. All we have to do is just be in love with the Lord and willing to follow Him, accepting His atoning work on the cross and living out our faith in honor of His sacrifice. Not to earn value--but to show gratitude for it. You are HIS treasure.

My dear friends, if today you are wondering, "Am I worth it?" or worse yet, thinking "I am not worth anything," STOP wondering and START reading the key verses above. You are more valuable than the birds in the sky which God feeds and cares for daily, year after year. Will He not care for you? Will He not provide for you? Does He not love you infinitely more? YES, He does. You are more beautiful to God than the wildflowers which He dresses in splendid color, texture, and design. In His eyes you are perfect, lovely, and radiant. Nothing is more valuable than that for which you would give your life. So, I will say it again, God loves you so much that He decided to give you His kingdom--and so He died for you. That, ladies, is an appraisal you can take to the bank and cash in on your fortune!

My prayer for each one of you is that today you will focus upon your worth in the opinion of the Most High and no one else. Live on His appraisal of you. Act on your value as a child of God. Believe in His word. Know you are loved!